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General NewsIn my earlier post I talked a bit about the importance of having a team when trying to meet challenges. I want to reiterate something: your teammates don't have to be perfect. (If they were they probably wouldn't want the rest of us.) They just need to have strength(s) that we lack, no matter what our baseline is. In this past week someone on my team rather botched an attempt to fix a situation I was in. That's okay, because he still made a difference, and because he didn't slink into a corner when it didn't work out precisely as planned. His integrity is intact and I am reassured that I can count on him when times are tough.

I saw the beauty of teams again today in the video of Britain's Got Talent's Charlotte and Jonathan. Charlotte has a very good voice but suffers in the comparison to Jonathan, but it's very clear that Jonathan wouldn't have gotten on that stage without her. You'll have to watch to see what happens in the judges' comments, but the bond between these two singers is beautiful to see!

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Stronger Than You Know

General NewsSometimes we just need for someone else to tell us that thing we already know.

I had a good talk with an older, wiser friend this weekend. I'm not a "spill my guts" kind of person, and even when invited to do so the overflow is quite regulated. Still, I said enough to give decent expression to some of the things that had gotten under my skin recently.

The response? To paraphrase, "if God puts a situation in your life, then you have the resources to deal with it. You are stronger than you know."

I know I'm strong. Yet sometimes it seems as though things pile on in a concerted effort to break me. I know of many people in far worse circumstances, but I also have a bunch of people who will say I'm the strongest person they know. And if that's the case, I start thinking we're all really in trouble. Apparently no one is "unbreakable" so it's easy to question the point of being strong.

As I fight through this question, I'm realizing that it's more about technique than strength. Yes, you need a certain strength to execute the technique, but technique will save you when strength begins to fail. You need to know how to lift the heavy loads without falling. Also, you need a team. It's no accident that most of the elite function in some kind of team. If you go solo you might not make it, but your team will always get your wounded body home.

Only you can decide who is on your team and what techniques you'll use. I can say from experience that if you leave God off the team, you'll likely run into trouble, but I know some of you will have to work that out for yourselves. Your teammates have to earn the right to be there, and that includes some general agreement on technique. Ego has to get out of the way; some people will need to step aside from certain "missions" for a variety of reasons. But one heart and one goal becomes one strength.
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General NewsJust FYI, I'll be out of the country for the weekend and therefore pretty much incommunicado. If anything reaches me, it'll be email.
Hopefully I'll be bright-eyed and bushy-tailed when I reappear on Monday! ;)
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Inspiration of the Day!

General NewsI'm going to remember this lady when I'm discouraged over current limitations:

Utah Woman, 101, Paraglides Into Record Books

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General NewsState Department to Announce New Search for Amelia Earhart's Plane in Pacific
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General NewsGreat post on dealing with fear from one of our local Orthodox writers:

My Dangerous Friend, Fear

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General NewsSometimes it's just really hard to find the right words.

The pressure cooker of my life is really heating up:

How fast can I start working when I move to New York?

And maybe we won't buy me the new(er) car after we sell my current one.

Don't forget to have a doctor lined up in advance...

Btw, we might need to have the house ready to sell in 4 months, including redoing the stairs, tiling two bathrooms, refinishing some cabinets, replacing some windows, and landscaping our disaster of a yard.

And how dare I stress about all this, or cry when the sacrifices hurt?

I know I'm blessed in so many ways. I'm making an effort to remember that, especially in light of the life-and-death struggles others are facing with more grace than I have. I know that others are making bigger sacrifices and I know that some of these wants are selfish. I'm just struggling to maintain the vision of what all of this is for, struggling to believe that this cycle of working for something and getting knocked down will not last forever.

Some of my struggle is perfectionism. I'm driven to do things right and while I try to keep that from aggravating other people, it seems that anything less of perfection always comes back to bite me. And I'm utterly frustrated because of the limitations of my current circumstances, especially when I want so much to meet new challenges with joy and optimism.

Okay...deep breath...thanks for listening to me rant!
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General NewsBoyfriend of Missing Florida Police Cadet Arrested on Grand Larceny Charges

Disclaimer: I don't have inside knowledge of the case; I'm just going off gut instinct here.

I'm probably not alone in surmising how this played out. Ms. Rothwell probably knew or suspected what David Perry was doing, hence the planned break-up. Very possibly, she made the mistake of letting him know what she knew. Some might say that Kelly Rothwell was over-confident, and that she got into trouble because she thought she could handle Perry alone. It's certainly possible. But it's also possible that, given her status as a police cadet, she tried to handle him alone because she didn't want to appear weak to her colleagues. As a former public safety professional (EMT) I can easily see how the risks to her career might have seemed bigger than the risk from her boyfriend.

Problem is, this is the core scenario for too many domestic kidnappings and homicides. It's less common for a woman to be snatched off the street by a former partner, and far more likely that she'll disappear from home or some other private place because she just didn't recognize the risk. Too often, she doesn't want to appear as a hysterical female or a fool.

I hate to say it like this, because it's hard on a lot of decent guys, but if the break-up is anything short of cordial, it needs to be done in a public place. And then you shouldn't be alone together until the dust has been settled for a very long time. If you need to get your stuff out, take someone with you. Feeling like a fool is better than ending up dead.

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General NewsIf you've found your way to this blog you've probably also read a number of wounded warrior stories from various sources. "Happy Endings" take on an entirely different meaning when someone is fighting for their life. Some stories eventually fade out of the public eye into the sea of rehab and struggles that will never really change. Some end completely for this side of eternity. And some just pray for the day when the warrior is stable enough for rehab. If you're on Facebook, I highly recommend liking the page of "Prayers for Sgt Jamie Jarboe," https://www.facebook.com/jarboefamily
The strength, courage, and optimism of this family always astounds and humbles me.

But this post isn't about the need for prayers or pity. This is about us confronting their example.

I have no intention of minimizing anyone's struggle through comparisons. If you spend enough time with hurting people you quickly realize how futile it is to compare suffering. If you don't automatically recognize where you're at in relation to other people's pain, it's seldom worth discussing. But what I do want to encourage is the ability to follow amazing examples of courage.

Life has a way of hitting us where it'll hurt most, taking away some natural function. For some of us, it's illness or injury. For others, it's painful memories that refuse to go away. It's broken relationships, broken dreams, broken courage. All these things can disable us and hinder us from accomplishing our Plan A. It's natural to be discouraged and overwhelmed when they happen.

A friend of mine has the unique gift of being able to be sympathetic while always encouraging me to focus on whatever is positive. We need people like that in our lives, and we need to become those people! I read the status updates that Sgt. Jarboe's wife posts, and I'm absolutely floored by the circumstances they meet with faith and optimism. And I pray we all find that strength to meet the challenges that threaten to "disable" us.

UPDATE: Sgt. Jarboe took his last breath today, 3/21/12. Please keep the entire family in your prayers. Memory Eternal.