"Freedom has to be learnt through the ascesis, the ascetic discipline, of precise observation and imaginative thinking; and then it needs to be defended with courage and self sacrifice. As Nicolas Berdyaev observed, 'Freedom gives birth to suffering, while the refusal to be free diminishes suffering. Freedom is not easy, as its enemies and slanderers allege: freedom is hard; it is a heavy burden. Men, as Dostoevsky has shown with such amazing power, often renounce freedom to ease their lot.' Yet if we renounce freedom, we become less than truly human; and if we deny others their freedom, we dehumanize them."

-Bishop Kallistos Ware, "The Inner Kingdom"

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Worthless Women

General NewsI have to speak up, not because I'm particularly radical in gender politics, but because I'm a moderate in that field. I don't throw all the blame on men; there are plenty of lies that women believe about ourselves, and we really need to stop feeding them to each other. But I'm your sister, your daughter, your friend, your colleague, and there are more than a few of us who would really appreciate some help from the male population. And yes, I'm saying "please."

I think it was in Eric Grietens' "The Heart and the Fist" where he recounted that a SEAL instructor told them that a woman should always feel better about herself after spending time with a SEAL. That caught me in the heart; I've known a few men like that but I'd be lying if I said it was the majority. It stuck with me for months as I wondered why it has to be that way. I read articles such as Sold For Sex, In Our Backyards and Magazine Editors Highlight Shocking Disparity Between Size of Models and Real Women.

But it was Worthless Women and the Men Who Make Them that forced me to speak up. I agree with the comments that point out that women do a lot to perpetuate the problem, from the things we say to our friends and daughters to the sad reality that we believe a lot of the junk that comes our way. But I appreciated so much how a man was willing to stand up and say, "Guys, we have to stop doing these things to women." Truth is, that joke or comment that you make one time gets burned into our brains. It repeats itself over and over during anything remotely related and at 2 o'clock at night. I can do a pretty good job of hanging out with the guys, and I think the last time I filed a complaint was in junior high. But let me tell you, the stuff that you say and forget thirty seconds later will probably take me at least three days to shake off. That's just how women are wired, and I don't complain because I made the choice to spend time with the guys. But if you want to have an honest discussion about gender politics, you need to know how things work on the other side. So please, read the articles, particularly the "worthless women" one, and think about them. That's all I'm asking right now.

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Occupy

General NewsThis was written several weeks ago, but if you want to have discussions on a deeper level about the Occupy movement, it's well worth your time: Occupy Movement
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State of the Union

General NewsDid anyone actually pay attention to the State of the Union address on Tuesday?

Granted, I don't have TV right now, so I might have missed a lot of commentary, but so far I'm only hearing Democrats talking about it. Did everyone else just decide that Obama's speech wasn't worth our time?

I don't know how other people have reacted. And I've only read the transcript. My basic conclusions? It was a "good speech" full of many likeable statements, but Obama was self-aggrandizing and had little grip on reality. It would have made a great speech for a "West Wing" president. Oh wait, that's what we elected, a president designed for TV ratings.

And that's his reality. I've met high schoolers who are better informed. I can't read the transcript without getting angry at Obama's distortions. But what worries me is the way it seems as though no one cares any more.

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Maj. Merlyn Hans Dethlefsen

Maj. Merlyn Hans Dethlefsen

53 years old from Royal, Iowa

354th Tactical Fighter Squadron, 355th Tactical Fighter Wing

June 29, 1934 - December 14, 1987

U.S. Air Force

The President of the United States of America, in the name of Congress, takes pleasure in presenting the Medal of Honor to Major Merlyn Hans Dethlefsen, United States Air Force, for conspicuous gallantry and intrepidity at the risk of his life above and beyond the call of duty while serving with the 354th Tactical Fighter Squadron, 355th Tactical Fighter Wing, near Thai Nguyen, North Vietnam, on 10 March 1967. Major Dethlefsen was one of a flight of F-105 aircraft engaged in a fire suppression mission designed to destroy a key anti-aircraft defensive complex containing surface-to-air missiles (SAM), an exceptionally heavy concentration of anti-aircraft artillery, and other automatic weapons. The defensive network was situated to dominate the approach and provide protection to an important North Vietnam industrial center that was scheduled to be attacked by fighter bombers immediately after the strike by Major Dethlefsen's flight. In the initial attack on the defensive complex the lead aircraft was crippled, and Major Dethlefsen's aircraft was extensively damaged by the intense enemy fire. Realizing that the success of the impending fighter bomber attack on the center now depended on his ability to effectively suppress the defensive fire, Major Dethlefsen ignored the enemy's overwhelming firepower and the damage to his aircraft and pressed his attack. Despite a continuing hail of anti-aircraft fire, deadly surface-to-air missiles, and counterattacks by MIG interceptors, Major Dethlefsen flew repeated close range strikes to silence the enemy defensive positions with bombs and cannon fire. His action in rendering ineffective the defensive SAM and anti-aircraft artillery sites enabled the ensuing fighter bombers to strike successfully the important industrial target without loss or damage to their aircraft, thereby appreciably reducing the enemy's ability to provide essential war material. Major Dethlefsen's consummate skill and selfless dedication to this significant mission were in keeping with the highest traditions of the U.S. Air Force and reflect great credit upon himself and the Armed Forces of his country.

Maj. Dethlefson retired from the Air Force in 1977 with the rank of Lieutenant Colonel. He died in 1987 of natural causes and was buried in Arlington National Cemetery.

These brave men and women sacrifice so much in their lives just so others may get to enjoy freedom. For that I am proud to call them Hero. Those Who Say That We're In A Time When There Are No Heroes, They Just Don't Know Where To Look

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Please and Thank You

General NewsSometimes I think we over-complicate our relationships. We've thrown out enough societal rules that we're left scrambling to figure out the gaps. But the basics still apply.

Please. In adult parlance, too often this comes with an edge in the voice, an insinuation that we're losing our temper or that the other person has already failed us. I don't know where that comes from. Kids are (hopefully) taught to say "please" when asking for something but it's as if the adults are uncomfortable with being nice. Or maybe we're just uncomfortable with putting the other person in the position of power to please us. We've preemptively lowered our expectations because we don't want the hurt of being denied.

I remember a long debate over the use of the phrase, "I need you." I'd used the line in a story and the reader thought that the man who heard that from a woman would run for the hills. Hmm, maybe. ;) If a person has a long list of needs, others tend to get scared off. In that case, much depends upon the inner security of the hearer. But I digress. Somehow in this morass of insecurity we've lost the ability to directly ask for what we need. If I say that I need YOU, then I'm saying that I've made a choice and you are the one I believe can help. Deep down, people want to make a difference for someone else. We just tend to blow it when we present such a long list that they feel they're set up for failure. But because of this, too often we bury our requests and let them resurface as unspoken expectations. Usually we're better off with the requests. Give people a chance to do something for you. Say please. They might surprise you.

Thank you. It's easy to say to strangers, to cashiers, to the acquaintance who does something unexpectedly nice. It's much harder when it's on a deeper level, when clouded with regrets for how we should have reciprocated or guilt that we were needy in the first place. And it's worse when there's something more serious that the other person has left unsaid. It's hard to thank the person we think will hurt us. There's a "thank you" that I need to say, and I've opened my mouth to say it half a dozen times. But I choke on my own failures before I can get the words out, because I never wanted the situation. As I sit here thinking about it, I'm ashamed. If I'd needed a kidney and someone had provided one, I can't imagine not saying thank you, no matter how much I hated the medical circumstances. This other situation is not much different. Oh, how I wish we were all the heroes we imagine ourselves to be.

Please. Let these three words bring you one step closer to that hero you want to be. Thank you.
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8 hours

General NewsSorry for being so quiet this week. I've been sick (more than the usual) and generally just battling through a lot of things I didn't want to deal with.

We all have pivotal moments in our lives, and often we don't recognize them until later. Last night I was remembering a really horrible night years ago and the choice I had to make: wake someone up or wait until morning. I waited. And I shouldn't have. Eight hours allowed a wall to build, and it's never really come down.

I know people don't like being woken up. I know I don't! But if you need to say something to someone, don't wait; say it now. You never know what eight hours will bring.
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Capt. Eddie S. Ray

Capt. Eddie S. Ray

57 years old from Seattle, Washington

Company B, 1st Light Armored Infantry Battalion, Task Force Shepherd, 1st Marine Division

U.S. Marines

The President of the United States of America takes pleasure in presenting the Navy Cross to Captain Eddie S. Ray, United States Marine Corps, for extraordinary heroism while serving as Commanding Officer, Company B, First Light Armored Infantry Battalion, Task Force Shepherd, FIRST Marine Division, in the Emirate of Kuwait on 25 February 1991. During the early morning hours of G+1 of Operation Desert Storm, an Iraqi mechanized division counter-attacked elements of the FIRST Marine Division in the vicinity west of the flame and smoke engulfed Burgan Oil Fields in Southeastern Kuwait. As dense black smoke shrouded the battlefield, an Iraqi mechanized brigade engaged the FIRST Marine Division Forward Command Post security forces. During the ensuing intense ten hour battle, Captain Ray repeatedly maneuvered his Light Armored Vehicle Company in harm's way, skillfully integrating his Light Armored Infantry weapons, reinforcing TOW's, and AH-1W Attack Helicopters to decisively defeat main Iraqi counter-attacks. Leading from the front and constantly exposed to large volumes of enemy fire, Captain Ray led swift, violent attacks directly into the face of the vastly larger enemy force. These attacks shocked the enemy, destroyed 50 enemy Armored Personnel Carriers, and resulted in the capture of over 250 Iraqi soldiers. Operating perilously close to the attacking enemy, Captain Ray's courage, composure under fire, and aggressive war fighting spirit were instrumental in the defeat of a major enemy effort and the successful defense of the Division Forward Command Post. By his outstanding display of decisive leadership, unlimited courage in the face of heavy enemy fire, and utmost devotion to duty, Captain Ray reflected great credit upon himself and upheld the highest traditions of the Marine Corps and the United States Naval Service.

These brave men and women sacrifice so much in their lives just so others may get to enjoy freedom. For that I am proud to call them Hero. Those Who Say That We're In A Time When There Are No Heroes, They Just Don't Know Where To Look

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