Tuesday, April 09 2013 @ 02:24 pm PDT
Contributed by: WatchCat
We wish that doing the right thing was easy, or at least, would come naturally. Then a bad day hits and it seems that every decision is a struggle to do what's right. To make it more difficult, there are right actions with wrong motives. And sometimes we're just so tired, and something slips without us realizing it. These are the days we need our friends, our team.
One of my current projects discusses the concept of a chain of failure. Sometimes one mistake is disastrous, but more often, disaster comes from a long line of smaller issues. Surrounding yourself with wise, experienced people stops failure from going unnoticed.
About a week ago I got in a big argument over something I saw as a great opportunity. While the other person misunderstood on some levels, they were shocked at my suggestion and challenged me on it. It was particularly jarring because it was in an area of personal expertise. Once I calmed down, though, I realized that they were mostly right about the problem. Now I can't believe what I was thinking...except I know exactly where it came from. It came from fatigue, from having chief responsibility for a really long time.
I've done a lot in my life alone, and all too often I've gone unchallenged because I've surrounded myself with those who are a step behind me. I'm grateful to say that this has changed. Not in every arena of life, because there are plenty of people who need help. But I choose to take the ego hit of associating with people who are stronger than I am in various areas. I've learned humility the hard way, with mistake after mistake and regular reminders that I still have a long way to go. But I'd rather live with accountability and have hope of becoming great, rather than have an unchallenged false belief. In short, we learn more from examining our lives in light of heroes than by looking for pats on the head.